tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post9006005734629941775..comments2023-05-29T04:07:45.178-07:00Comments on Still Grasping For Sanity: The Silent OneNicholehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01897510280288314268noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-24107799785602462862009-03-28T00:27:00.000-07:002009-03-28T00:27:00.000-07:00Nichole- I'm really sorry it came across so as to ...Nichole- I'm really sorry it came across so as to cause you to have to explain any of your writings... This is YOUR blog and I obviously read it because your story touched my heart. <BR/><BR/>I had no ill intensions and I never meant to get you to have to defend any of your words. I'm truly sorry that you needed to do that.<BR/><BR/>I don't think I made it clear enough... I have endo AND have no hubby to try to have kids with. I have 3 sisters and 2 have fertility issues and I'm soooo fearful that I'll be single and infertile forever (which is why your story touches me)<BR/><BR/>That leads me to just reiterating a few little things- not argue. The separation of your religious beliefs was kind of my point...God uses our trials to bring good out of the situation and when I see the frustration, I feel sad that you're going thru it. I mean, I can't even imagine what you're dealing with and I truly do understand that this forum is a place where you should be sage to express it "all" and again, I'm really sorry It seemed like I was calling you a spoiled brat. <BR/><BR/>From reading your posts- I can honestly say I have never ONCE thought that. <BR/><BR/>I do feel that pausing and taking a deep breathe and some time to enjoy the rewards of your current life (It is MORE that obvious that you LOVE Pace w/ all your heart and same for him. <BR/><BR/>I attended a support group with my infertile sister for a while and I probably began feeling infertile since I have no idea if the problem will plague me as well as them. Still- not remotely the same thing! <BR/><BR/>One thing I learned from the group was to stop and enjoy where you are. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps if I had confirmed I was infertile, my message would have been received a little more like support and encouraging words to strive towards. :( <BR/><BR/>Nichole, again, I'm sorry I upset you and came across as judging. I wish I could say more about some of the things I said but I don't think it would help. The whole point of my post was to remind you that God is there and His plan is already in action and well- keep looking to him. <BR/><BR/>I read some of the post comments from others and think that the judgement passed on me for not walking in your shoes is somewhat unfair. I have my own sorrows and things so many others have no clue about and I have to desperately recognize the power God has to give/take and what i have to do to get thru it... curse him and get on with it... which you always do soooo well! :)<BR/><BR/>I promise not to post again as I never-ever- meant to upset you and cause you to rethink your feelings- just where/how you direct them. <BR/><BR/>In the most love one can have for a stranger...<BR/><BR/>One last thing... this is not the first time I've posted- just first time I've used any name... I have posted many many times with prayers and other comments anonymously--- because my heart breaks for you. I don't even know you and I have cried (wept even) in prayer for you and Pace. <BR/><BR/>Why? can't tell you... but your struggle means something to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18069993434847953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-64639146997575044222009-03-22T21:02:00.000-07:002009-03-22T21:02:00.000-07:00Hi, Nichole. Just read your post and I wanted to ...Hi, Nichole. Just read your post and I wanted to send some support. I can see that Silent One is trying to help, but we all need to realize that this life is a journey. Every day brings a new challenge in trying to give up our own nature and looking towards His will. It's never easy. We live under grace, and God knows right where you're at every second. He will work with you! Keep doing what you're doing. You're OK, girl! :)Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07547132736468583637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-126775935912952632009-03-20T17:41:00.000-07:002009-03-20T17:41:00.000-07:00I'm glad it meant a lot to you...I meant it all! :...I'm glad it meant a lot to you...I meant it all! :)<BR/><BR/>Your MIL is a trip along with my mom...oh by the way, she wants to solidify her relationship with my dad and have a baby! Great...my brother's gf and my mom are going to have babies before me and both need to wear straight jackets in my opinion, lol!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13326718619587232436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-31461110011151105742009-03-20T08:36:00.000-07:002009-03-20T08:36:00.000-07:00I think that sometimes ppl misunderstand our blogs...I think that sometimes ppl misunderstand our blogs b/c we tend to speak most when we are hurting...after all, it's our way to release. So, it comes off as selfish or whatever else to those who've never been in our shoes. I know that I tend to write when I'm in a bad place. If I didn't write it out, I would explode. Thankfully, most readers get that. <BR/><BR/>I believe that God meets us where we are. He sees, hears, and knows us, even if he doesn't choose to grant us immediate satisfaction when we ask for it. The thing is, if we didn't show our anger or frustration, and only spoke of rainbows and butterflies while going through IF...well, we'd be liars...and THAT is not "christian." Why pretend all is happy-go-lucky when God already knows it's not?<BR/><BR/>I believe we go through things, as Christians, that we won't understand (maybe never), but that help us grow. They challenge us, mold us, and make us look down to the very core of who we are and what we believe. There's nothing wrong with admitting we're in a dark place.<BR/><BR/>You know I've been reading and supporting for a long time now and I will say that it has been obvious how much you and Pace love each other AND how much you are striving to trust God despite the cards you've been dealt. You're doing the best with what you've been given...and I believe that b/c of that, you will be blessed in ways you never knew possible.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing (in such an eloquent, mature, and "christian" way) this post. You are an amazing woman who touches more ppl than you realize.<BR/><BR/>(((hugs)))Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484007558206947938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-37144370645059826892009-03-20T00:51:00.000-07:002009-03-20T00:51:00.000-07:00I believe my faith is very strong, and I am a woma...I believe my faith is very strong, and I am a woman of God, but even I sit back at times and think wtf??? Why is she pregnant (my brother's gf) and not me? Me who has my shit together, me who is married...the list could go on but like you I have faith and I know God has a plan. Silent One has never been in our shoes, Silent One never felt so much love after seeing the words pregnant on a white stick, and I hope she never goes through that. I hope she doesn't find Mr. Right to find out she can't have a baby with him...no, she will never understand. Judging someone like us easy but walking in our shoes is the hard part.<BR/><BR/>I have known you for a long time, and I know how grateful you are, I have seen how much you adore Pace and appreciate him, and I have seen you cry out to God. This person only sees what you write, she doesn't know you nor is she lucky enough to know you. Forget her Nichole! <BR/><BR/>I think asking the Dr. about Clomid is a great idea. I can't wait to see you with a big fat belly!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13326718619587232436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-66909079941235044932009-03-19T21:38:00.000-07:002009-03-19T21:38:00.000-07:00Wow, there is someone who does not have a clue nor...Wow, there is someone who does not have a clue nor do they get it. It's funny how people mean well and come off sounding really judgmental and in no way can they relate but they try and sound foolish in the end. I understand and I can relate! Hugs To You :) I hope you have a nice weekend.<BR/>www.barrenwomb.comUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10415718060393128849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-66570794430310135412009-03-19T19:45:00.000-07:002009-03-19T19:45:00.000-07:00It drives me crazy that you even have to deal with...It drives me crazy that you even have to deal with that comment. But I must say my dear..you did and excellent job ;D I just wanted you to know that I do read your blog and I do see your heart!! God loves you so much and you are on His path. I just want to give you the biggest HUG! <BR/><BR/>I am so mad at this silent one...no one messes with one of my sisters!!! okay I am going to try to get it together.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14212576846634450737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-28031373569931905632009-03-19T16:10:00.000-07:002009-03-19T16:10:00.000-07:00Nichole, I just have to say....WELL DONE!!You acce...Nichole, I just have to say....<BR/><BR/>WELL DONE!!<BR/><BR/>You accepted that post and replied with such dignity and calmness, something I could never have done.<BR/><BR/>Fertiles make me giggle at their apparent belief that they understand what we are going through, I'm sorry guys but seriously you have NO freakin idea and until you're faced with what we've faced....IMO you have no right to comment.<BR/><BR/>I will happily put my hand up and admit that I have NO belief in God and like it is your right to believe in God, it's mine not too and to be honest its reasons like 10 years of unsuccessful ttc while others who really shouldn't be parents get knocked up so easily, why I don't believe.<BR/><BR/>I was frustrated reading your post today because of all the God and religious references, it's a pet hate how people bring God up in relation to infertility BUT I have enough respect to allow others their beliefs and only wish others did too....<BR/><BR/>Again I think you handled your reply beautifully and hope this post hasn't come across as mean or anything because it's not, I suppose I just wanted to back you up a bit!<BR/><BR/>xxxxxx~*~Bodhi~*~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05652637669896488666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35060280.post-66139404754181883162009-03-19T16:07:00.000-07:002009-03-19T16:07:00.000-07:00(((Hugs, Nichole))) However well-intentioned your ...(((Hugs, Nichole))) However well-intentioned your "Silent" reader may be, it's quite obvious they've never walked an inch in your shoes, let alone a mile...have her come over to my blog and read the posts from about a year ago when I was cursing God's name for my failed IVF cycle, or two years ago when I first realized that things weren't working out the way that we had planned...<BR/><BR/>I truly DO believe that God meets you where you are...there are times when we can lift up His name & there are times when He's the one doing all of the lifting for us...I think in the end, we all even things out. I'm so sorry you had to hear such harsh words.Terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01001461389954965086noreply@blogger.com