Before my most recent miscarriage, I started a private FB group so I could keep friends and family updated of our TTC status without having to make 1 million phone calls, emails, texts etc. It worked out really well, but I haven't updated it for the last two cycles.
Ever since our miscarriage and then RPL panel results, I just haven't felt like telling anyone what we are doing. I feel like the Girl Who Cried Wolf. You know...."Hey...we're pregnant...Oh...just kidding we aren't pregnant anymore." I just felt like this was such an emotional roller coaster, I wasn't sure I wanted my friends and family to be riding anymore.
I told each of them that I would completely understand if they wanted to leave the group, of course no one did, but I suspect some wish they never had gotten the invite in the first place. I don't begrudge them for that.
Pace asked me the other day why I hadn't been updating the group on where we are in our cycles and I just told him it was too exhausting. It was too exhausting to expect words of encouragement from friends and family only to be disappointed, or to be insulted by well-meaning platitudes that are posted in the group. I just don't have it in me right now. It is difficult enough to drag Pace and I through this hell, but I don't want to bring my friends/family with me.
Don't get me wrong, if someone asks...I will provide information, but I am not providing it unsolicited anymore.