Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Support Group

Pace and I just got back from my very first RES.OLVE support group meeting. I can't believe we didn't go sooner. I met some of the most amazing women and it was so refreshing to be sitting at a table with women who "get it"

Don't get me wrong - I LOVE all of my fellow cyber-infertiles but there is something about having that human face to face interaction. It was amazing. The women at this meeting are all at different stages with different histories and one very common bond. INFERTILITY. We laughed, we cried, but most of all we listened with intent and understood each other.

There is so much for me to soak in. My mind is going a million miles a minute. One thing is for sure - I am definitely going again next month!

Oh - and I have a belated New Year's Resolution - I am going to be more selfish. Ha! Funny right? I am serious. I am going to focus more on me and not worry so much about hurting my friends feelings when I just can't bear to go to another baby shower or go on a sister's trip with my sister's and their newborn babies, or grin and bite my tongue when someone makes an insensitive comment. I am not going to do it anymore. I am not going to sacrifice my happiness and mental/emotional health for the sake of others anymore. It does me no good and only stresses me out and puts my body in an even greater state of discord. I can't afford any more discord in my body - I'm putting my foot down!

I really want to learn how to master humor in this whole thing. One of the ladies at the meeting uses humor to help her and DH through their infertility. I want that. I want to learn how to do that. I wonder if they have a How to Laugh at Your own Infertility for Dummies book?


Anonymous said...

I am so happy you enjoyed your 1st RESOLVE meeting. I think IF support groups are amazing. I am a peer counselor for a Mind/Body group at my old RE's clinic. We actually focus a lot on "taking care of me"! I would like to recommend a book called Healing Mind, Healthy Woman by Alice Domar. You will love it! Be well.

~*~Bodhi~*~ said...

If you find one, can you let me know? Cause I'm struggling with it all at the minute too and could do with a laugh!

I'm glad you found such a supportive group hon, hopefully they will be able to bring some laughter into your life?!?


Dana said...

If you find a book like that...I wanna know :D So happy that you had a great time at the meeting. I am proud of you for your new resoultion. You should do more for YOU! You deserve it sweetie! Hugs and Love!

cady said...

i'm really thinking about going to a resolve support group in my area. i think that's really what i need, especially if this ivf cycle doesn't work. i'm glad you enjoyed it.