Tuesday, September 29, 2009

A shift

I had a pretty good weekend, nothing really major, hung out with some friends, helped my friends with their horses, played Rock.Band and of course watched football!

On Sunday Pace and I participated in a research study on the emotional and relational effects of infertility on individuals. This consisted of a woman coming to our house and interviewing each of us separately. The questions were pretty basic:

While you were going through treatment, do you think your emotional needs were met by your Dr/RE as well as your physical?
How has infertility affected your friendships/family relationships?
How has infertility changed you?
How has infertility changed your spouse?

It was actually very interesting and it was the most I had thought about and talked about our infertility since we decided to take a break. I did my interview first, and then it was Pace's turn. After we both did our interviews, the facilitator handed us an envelope with some cash in it to compensate us for our time. We tried to refuse, but when she told us it was the University's money and not hers, we decided to take it. LOL

When she left, Pace looked at me, handed me the envelope and said. "Let's start that baby fund." I literally broke down in tears and jumped in his arms. We are going to set up a separate account for treatment/adoption (whichever route we decide to go) so that friends and family can donate as well instead of purchasing Christmas/birthday gifts for us. I am SO excited ladies. It may be a very small step, but at least I know that he hasn't given up. That we WILL return to our quest to find a family, it is just a matter of when.

I am so excited that fall is here, the weather is starting to change, it is still dark out when I wake up in the morning now. I LOVE FALL!!! We don't get to see many seasons here in Arizona, so fall is a BIG thing for us! Plus it means that the dreadful heat is almost over!

This weekend I am attending an Christian women's conference with a friend of mine. I am very excited, I haven't attended one of these things for a very long time and I NEED TO BE FED! I have been starving myself long enough. I am so excited to experience the fellowship and GREAT music!

7 comments:

♥ ♥ Just a Girl in Love w/ a Soldier ♥ ♥ said...

What a neat oppurtuinity that she gave you and paved a path for the two of you to start a fund. I am excited for you on this next step. :) Love you Girl

Jess said...

What a great post...I'm so happy for you! I'd write more but I got to study...things are not going so well! I will post you later. I could use a chat in a couple of days!

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the misfit said...

I love fall too!! Every time I leave work and feel the crisp air there is a spring in my step. A retreat sounds like a great idea. I am thinking I should go on one too. I feel so untethered...

the misfit said...

I love fall too!! Every time I leave work and feel the crisp air there is a spring in my step. A retreat sounds like a great idea. I am thinking I should go on one too. I feel so untethered...

addingtothepack said...

Congratulations on starting the "next step" fund. What a great way to get seed money for it by participating in research that will hopefully help other infertiles.

The Two of Us said...

Yay! That is really exciting! I am very happy to hear your hubby is on board:)

Hillary said...

LOVE the saving envelope! These sound like great steps, and I pray the Lord makes your path clear!

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