Friday, March 30, 2007

Dear Cashier: Mind your own business!

THANK GOD IT'S FRIDAY! I haven't been this excited about a weekend in a long time. What a wonderful one it is going to be. We get to spend the evening and tomorrow morning with Pace's 2 year old little sister, then we get to have date night tomorrow night with the big *surprise* for Pace after that, Sunday will be church and our appointment. I think (other than getting bad news at the appt.) I have eliminated any time for bad news/or bad things happening.
Yes. I am EXCITED!
My ovaries felt very large and achy last night. This morning I convinced myself that it is all in my head (since the achy ovaries were obviously figments of my imagination last time)and now they are not near as achy. (Crazy how the mind works isn't it?) It kind of worries me cause if they are not achy it makes me feel like there is nothing going on in there. I am just trying to be patient, keep a level head and not get my hopes up.
Pace gets to give me my final shot tonight. I am so thankful that he is going to be giving me the shot, I don't want to give myself a shot ever again. I am so glad my parents never tried to talk me into being a nurse - my patients would hate me!

Here is something I don't understand and I welcome all thoughts on this subject:
Pace and I went grocery shopping last night and we were getting some Easter candy and stuff for his niece's, nephew and his little sister. We were at the checkout stand and the cashier asked who all of the candy was for - Pace explained then she said "Well, when are you guys going to have kids?" My first thought was "here we go again." I turned bright red holding back tears looked at her and politely said "someday". Why do people think it is any of their business? Having children or not is a very personal subject. A personal decision that a person (or couple) has to make for themselves. Why does every stranger out there feel that they have a right to that information? I decided after last night that I am going to come up with a couple of responses for next time I get asked this question (which will be soon I am sure). Here are some - feel free to add some if you have any ideas.

"When all the infertility drugs and inseminations start to work."
"We have kids already, they are just locked in the closet at home."
"We probably won't - I am infertile...thanks for asking."
"I don't know, my ovaries don't work."
"When pigs fly."
"(Just burst into tears and run away sobbing)"
"That is none of your business."
"Do you really care when I am going to have kids?"
"When I have enough money saved up to do In-Vitro Fertilization, since you care so much would you like to donate to the cause?"

Ohhhh if only I could think of these when people actually ask me that. I usually just turn bright red and want to go hide under a rock.

1 comment:

Melissa said...

Glad you have a nice weekend planned. Honestly, asking someone when they'll have kids is a rude question all around and no one should ever ask that! Ugh.